What is a Demisexual?

And is there a link between being demisexual and being an empath?

Demisexuals are people who experience sexual feelings and attraction only after developing a close emotional relationship, and not on the basis of first impressions or physical characteristics.

Demisexuals require an emotional connection to feel sexual attraction, and building trust is a key factor in this, which takes time.

The pre-existence of such a connection is the one and only condition under which a demisexual is able to start feeling sexual attraction, and I for one can totally relate to this.

demisexual meaning

This is the Demisexual Pride Flag/Symbol

Have a look at my page signs you are an empath to see if you have the empath traits too.

In a way, I think it's a good way to be because so many people judge others on their looks and can become shallow, obsessing only on someone's appearance, regardless of their personality. 

They can become so caught up in their physical attraction that it can lead them to become blind to that person's faults, so you can look at it as a positive because it takes that out of the equation for us demisexuals.

It also works in the reverse for me.... If I meet someone and I think 'you look ok', and as I get to know them, they show themselves to be a bad person, they start to become ugly to me.

It's like their inner appearance ultimately shines through to the outside, and that is what I will eventually see, and once you see it, I have found that it can't be undone, even if a person tries to rectify their faults, their true colours have already been presented to me.

I know it may sound unreasonable as people can change, but if you have hurt me, I will find it very difficult to recover because it's not in my nature to hurt people, and it's difficult to forgive toxic behaviour.

It also works that way with TV and movie actors for me. I might be watching a new series, and to start with, I think 'oh that actor is ok looking', and if this particular character is portrayed as a really good, positive person, by the time I've got to the end of the series I'm thinking 'ooh they're hot!' 😂

So, it still takes time for me to build that connection with someone, even if I don't know them personally!

Much like my meeting with my now husband. We met on a dating website, and we began building an amazing connection early on via messages, and even though I had a great feeling about him, I still needed to keep the communication going for weeks before I felt brave enough to meet him for the first time.

A lot of people find that they can't be doing with all the back and forth messages, and would rather just meet face to face and get everything out there in the open, in person, but I'm very cautious, and need time, and that's how I know when something is going to last.

Although as an empath I can judge someone very well by first impressions, I still need that connection that can only be built over time.

I realise that it seems I need to put labels on everything that I am, but it's not about that, it's about discovering who I really am, and it's so reassuring to know that there are terms out there that describe the type of person that I am, because it also means that there are others out there like me.

Not everyone wants to give themselves a 'label', or put themselves 'inside a box', but it makes me happy, and that's what counts.

 I am currently in the process of writing an e-book that I hope will become your empath survival guide.

I will be detailing ways in which you can learn to ground yourself, and protect yourself from negative energy.

I have put this together because after a lot of trial and error, these are the methods that have really helped me in my day to day life, and have really changed the way I deal with things.

I feel so much more positive, and the best thing of all, I feel more in control of my life. For the first time I feel an inner peace that I never had before,

 It will also cover the following: 

• Proven meditation techniques 
• Using crystals for healing energy and protection 
• Prana Yoga  
• Asking the Universe (Cosmos) 
• Setting Boundaries 
• Grounding techniques 

 It is my aim, and I feel... my purpose, to provide you with all the tools necessary to help you find your inner peace, and live a life of serenity, which is nothing less than you deserve. 

You too can become the best version of yourself.

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